There are people who don’t hurt you by accident.
They’re not “just angry” or “just don’t know how to love.”
They know what scares you, what makes you cry, and what shuts you down – and they use it on purpose.
This is not a relationship.
This is an emotional game, where one person seeks power – not closeness.
It’s not the absence of love.
It’s the deliberate distortion of it.
And recognizing that?
That’s not weakness.
That’s the first step toward healing.
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They intentionally push your buttons.
Let me tell you why…
1.
They know exactly what hurts you – and they use it.
It’s not random.
It’s not heat-of-the-moment.
It’s intentional.
It’s calculated.
This isn’t misunderstanding.
This is manipulation.
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2.
They push your sensitive spots on purpose.
Then turn around and call you “too sensitive.”
They twist your words, provoke your reaction –
then play the victim, as if you’re the problem.
That’s textbook emotional manipulation.
Classic gaslighting.
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3.
They use your past to control your present.
They know what you’ve been through,
they know what you’ve already healed –
and that’s exactly why they bring it up.
Not to talk it through.
But to break you again.
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4.
They start fights the moment they sense you pulling away.
Not because they want resolution –
but because chaos still keeps you connected.
Peace would release you.
And they know that.
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5.
They wound you with passive-aggressive comments – deep ones.
It sounds like a joke,
but they say it to make it sting.
It seems innocent,
but it’s laced with subtle disrespect.
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6.
They observe you – not to love you better.
But to control you more effectively.
They monitor your reactions,
what breaks you, what silences you…
and they use it all against you. Again and again.
It’s not accidental.
It’s strategy.
Summary
Ironically, the more people awaken today,
the more we see toxic and narcissistic behaviors surfacing.
If you truly want to protect yourself,
you have to understand them.
Their patterns.
Their tactics.
Why they do what they do,
how they do it,
and who they target.
If this kind of understanding matters to you,
feel free to explore the rest of the blog –
where I share deep insights about narcissistic mechanisms
and how to defend yourself against them.
Because here’s one truth:
Knowledge is power.
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You might be the reason they finally understand:
It wasn’t love. It was control, masked as care.
And now… they can begin to heal.